Rituals of Indian Marriage

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So beautiful it all looks, the holy bond so sweet, so heavenly,

The henna decorated hand of the bride taken so reverently

By the groom, with blessings from parents and society

In divine sanctity, to be honoured in matrimony,

And with holy reminders in the rituals, for eternity

To love, respect, forgive, have tolerance,

Sharing much with mutual understanding and compliance.

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My God!  Such grand celebrations, ecstatic!  

Life goes on with stars in the eyes, so romantic,

So many getting soul mates, leading to blissful years idealistic,

With love reciprocal, discover or achieve unknown horizons,

And materialise the dreams like stars shining in azure blue skies.

But for so many, passion subsides, when responsibilities increase.

The holy oath of protection and respect of the spouse,

 Is often forgotten and she is cast away like a louse,

Or with unpaid dowry, she can be forced to leave the house.

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With much expectation from in laws, children and husband,

Many women have to dance to the music of husbands’ band.

For minor issues many women are blamed terribly,

For lacking in everything but used for moments needy.

Lucky is she savours the ‘laddoo’ of marriage, not taken as a crow,

For divorce or separation awaits those who dare to caw.

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Patiently, the woman continues, a willing drudge, to cater for family.

Frustration might creep, for husband’s ego might be hurt badly,

If the wife’s salary is higher or if she shines too brightly,

Extra marital affairs can add fuel to fire resultantly.

Holy vows not respected, she seeks desperately

A haven of peace, in prayer, in alcohol or company friendly.

But the marriage institution will exist as it has been for eon,

By fair or by foul, the population is now more than 7.7 billion.

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©Pushmaotee Subrun

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About Pushmaotee Subrun

Pushmaotee Fowdur Subrun was born in 1949 in Mauritius. She pursued higher studies in Delhi University where she graduated in English. For the past forty-four years she has worked in secondary schools, seven years of which she spent in Masvingo, Zimbabwe, teaching English in an army school. She completed her PGCE at the Mauritius Institute of Education in 1993. After her retirement, she was a member of the Council of the University of Mauritius for three years. She is currently a reader and editor in the Ministry of Arts and Culture. She has written one novel, one play and Short Stories and Fables. Her poems have featured in Setu Magazine, ‘Poetry and Creativity’ and in Atunis Poetry.

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